Some topics can-not be over-emphasized. The ideal of Positive connections is one of those. So, If we believe that our Positive Connections will greatly increase the fulfillment of our life. Then, how do we increase our appeal to have more positive personal and professional connections?
You know the word “Appeal” by one context for sure, already. Our world is absolutely possessed with Sex Appeal. Nearly everyone wants to be more desirable to the other sex. This is certainly no secret. And if one is able to market successfully this appeal, then others will beat his or her door down.
So if it is so powerful; What is sex appeal? Simple. It is when you are desirable and people of the other sex want you.
Professional appeal is not such a raving topic but if we approach it right, it should be. In the same way that certain things can make someone “Appeal” to the other sex; there are certain things that can make a more personal and professional “Appeal” to colleagues and work partners. This kind of Appeal really is something, you can take definite steps to increase and improve in your connections and relationships.
Here are some solid suggestions..
Absolutely greet people warmly and with contagious friendliness. / First impressions are crucial. The moments of first contact with someone can radically mold the environment of the dialogue, towards a great relationship. Whether you feel like it or not; greet people with warmth and friendliness. / This is not phony. Far from it. Practicing being enthusiastically friendly will make you more genuine.
Be Outrageously positive. / Sometimes when people ask me how I am, I will answer with a string of superlatives. Amazing, awesome, dynamite, fantastic, incredible, blessed, happy and energized. Or I can say 100 more, at the drop of a hat. And I have practiced saying them so regularly that they spill from my tongue with energy and convincing persuasion. Nobody likes a dead fish. Be the kind of person that you would enjoy being around and you will find that others will like being around you!
Practice genuineness. / The word phony is like an anathema for me. It is like a plague to be avoided at all costs. Being real with people will more often than not win them over to you. Nothing is more repelling to a connection, than a non-genuine and insincere contact. Want to win connections and friends. Let them sense that you are the real deal!
Be driven about Value. / I drive people in my organization crazy trying to serve customers well. It is not just a concept with me. It is a commitment. But that’s where value must start. You are the face of your organization, to others.
Be driven about value! The word will get out and your career will
grow. People will seek you out, to join you.
Outlaw phony, negative, complaining, whining, disrespect and resentment. / People often wonder why they get poor results, when they have poor attitudes. Try to be real, positive, thankful, upbeat, respectful and forgiving. If your attitude is good; you are much more likely to “appeal” to others.
Be passionate about success. / Don’t just kinda, sorta want to win. Passionately pursue excellence. Go after your best performance with zeal and gusto.
Learn to really care, not just put on an air. / I try to have a prayerful attitude on the job. If someone has a need, I care. Do not just give lip service to people. Practice being really interested in their welfare and it will greatly increase your “appeal”.
Become an expert at what you do. / People like to consult an authority. Do not just know enough to get by. Work on knowing enough to be an outstanding and expert connection.
Be comfortable in your own skin. / Relax. Get loose. People are uncomfortable around up-tight people. Enjoy what you do. Let your style shine, as you are the most poised person you can be. People will open up to you and tell you more; if they sense you are contented with yourself.
Learn from others but develop your own style. / It is a huge mistake to be unwilling to learn from others. It is also a huge mistake to be a copy-cat. Learn to have your own approach. Try the techniques of others but with your own style.
Develop the respect of your connections by being complimentary. / If you bad talk those around you; people will not trust you. Work for and earn the respect of your connections. They will be more open to you as a professional, if they see that you are secure enough to recognize the talents and abilities of others.
Be humble and teachable & YET; Be strong and full of honest conviction. / Be a person of balance; who has a healthy view of others and yet a strong confidence in yourself. This will earn you the respect and admiration of others.
There are specific traits that will endear you to other worthy strategic partners. Traits such as:
a- Be a person who see’s the value of connections. Learn to join things and put things together, in your environment.
b- Find ways not only to do better things but to do the things you already do better. Strive to improve and function more efficiently and make it plain that this is your habit.
c- Develop strategies to help other people and become known for this.
d- Practice producing good things of benefit.
e- Learn to add more value to the tasks, you already do.
f- Ensure the quality of your work. Let it be clear to all that know you that you are a person of high skill and competence.
g- Be like Rosie the Riveter. Put your name on what you do. This is not necessarily egotistical boasting. Just simply do good work and take honest credit for it.
If you will practice these simple principles. You will definitely have healthier connections. People will love you and not even know why. I do not know that these principles will increase your “sex appeal” but they will definitely increase your personal and professional appeal. .
1- Be “Outrageously Positive.”
2- Develop strategies to help other people and become known for this.